There are always times within a marriage or partnership, where partners disagree with each other, but still need to find a way forward, so their relationship can flourish. The cliché “we can agree to disagree,” is often appropriate, providing you can decide how to manage the disagreement. Relationship therapists can help you talk through these differences, so you can find the best ways to settle with an agreed position.
What If the Disagreements Are Substantial?
When, for example, your daughter comes out and informs you that she is a lesbian, there are going to be difficult discussions within the family, although hopefully, extremely supportive.
Despite the modern times in which we live, some individuals will not accept that their daughter could have made such a choice, although of course, it is not a choice for the daughter. Where same-sex marriages are legal across many parts of the world, some individuals still insist that it is wrong. Relationship therapists will help you find out how to cope, within your family, when you have significant disagreements, but must still find a way for the whole family to move ahead in agreement.
Are You Imposing Your Thoughts?
When you tell your partner how they should react, you may not receive a positive response. It is always better for an individual to be able to communicate and explain their thoughts, so that both of you understand each other’s point of view, even if you don’t wish to accept it.
For better or for worse, relationship therapists will help you find ways to deal with these issues, even if they go against your own thoughts and considerations. This is not an example of trying to find a way to enforce an imposition on one partner in direct conflict with the other. This is more about understanding why each believes they have the correct point of view and finding a joint answer to how lives will be moved forward, which means an acceptance of how the other person feels, while agreeing a new formulation or plan.
